Tom Ford, there are better ways for men to understand women than penetration

The designer said that men should experience penetration once in their lives to understand women

By Verinia Khoo | Published: 8 Dec 2016

No, Tom Ford
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In a 2004 interview with GQ magazine, Tom Ford made a very unusual comment about how to get men to understand women better. The designer implied that men should be penetrated at least once in their lives in order for them to understand the opposite sex.

Then recently, in another interview for the same magazine, Ford cleared things up, cringing a little at what he said before and explained that he was drunk and was joking around with the interviewer. However, he still stands by what he said about men having to be penetrated.

"I think it would help them understand women," he explained. "It's such a vulnerable position to be in, and it's such a passive position to be in. And there's such an invasion, in a way, that even if it's consensual, it's just very personal. And I think there's a psyche that happens because of it that makes you understand and appreciate what women go through their whole life, because it's not just sexual, it's a complete setup of the way the world works, that one sex has the ability to literally – and is expected to and wanted to – but also there's an invasion. And I think that that's something most men do not understand at all."

Yes, that is what most men don't understand, but there are far more IMPORTANT things (things that are more representative of "the way the world works") we could be troubling ourselves to get men to understand. Here's a non-exhaustive list of examples.

1. Menstrual pains
2. Pregnancies, miscarriages, and/or post-partum depression
3. Hormonal mood swings
4. Getting cat-called
5. Being told to like getting cat-called because really, it's actually a compliment
6. Being paid less than your male peers doing the same job
7. Getting blamed for rape (think comments like "You shouldn't have gone out alone so late at night")
8. Being assumed as the weaker person in whatever situation
9. Being underestimated
10. Called 'bossy' if you prove that you're not to be underestimated
11. Called 'psychotic' and 'crazy' just for being vocal about personal opinions
12. Called 'emotional' when you shed a tear
13. Called a man-hater because you're a feminist

Doesn't penetration seem trivial now?

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